The Haggard Sisters
I am not a fan of Hillary Clinton, but I must agree with what she said about “It takes a village to raise a child”. I’ve come to realize the truth to this statement as I have reflected on all the people in my life who helped to raise me. My parents, of course, but so many more people impacted my life, and helped to shape and develop my personality, spirituality, goals and dreams, and all other aspects of my life.
Through this blog, I am chronicling my life story. I have mentioned my parents, grandparents, siblings, a couple of my aunts, and a high school music teacher. A few weeks ago, my sweet Aunt Mable passed away. She was 92. She was my mother’s sister. My mother and my Aunt Margaret preceded her in death. You might remember Aunt Mable and Aunt Margaret from a previous blog post. https://homespunhighlights.wordpress.com/2007/03/18/the-juicy-truth/ They were pranksters! They are in the picture below.
My aunts lived full lives. They were fun people! I want to be a fun person.
I spent a lot of time with my maternal aunts, and my cousins. We lived within a few miles of each other, so we were at each others houses often.
Like Mother, Aunt Mable was an extraordinary cook. She was the supervisor and head cook for a technological college in Knoxville for many years. You talk about some good eating! A family get-together, starring the prize winning dishes, cooked by my mother and aunts, was enviable. I say prize winning, because they competed at the Tennessee Valley A & I Fair, and took home many blue ribbons for their baking.
Aunt Margaret was quite the seamstress. She could sew anything! And, she could do it without a pattern to follow. She taught me a number of short cuts when I was learning to sew; things like how to sew in sleeves. This tip saved me many hours of time. She encouraged me in my sewing, and complimented me on a job well done.
Aunt Mable let me hang out with her as a teenager. Her son, Phil, was a close friend, and we double-dated. Mother and Daddy allowed me, on occasion, to go to Sunday evening services with Phil and Aunt Mable. There may have been an ulterior motive in my wanting to go, since my boyfriend also went to that church. On the way home, we would sing those old hymns we had sung in church.
Anytime any of us got together there was music, or singing, involved. I particularly remember one incident with Aunt Mable. Her daughter, Betty Lou, my sister Nene, my Aunt Wanda, and me in the car. I don’t remember where we were going, but we started singing. I unashamedly say that we harmonized amazingly as we sang “Country Roads, Take Me Home”, and a gamut of other songs. It’s funny how a seemingly insignificant moment can create a memory that lasts a lifetime.
My Aunt Nina is one of the most unique individuals I have ever known. She took great care of herself, long before exercise was a household word. She could roller skate. I was awed that she could skate backwards. She swam and walked, to add to her physical regimen. I love her laugh! It’s contagious. She was an encourager to me, too. I was 15 years old, when she came over to the house one day. I was sitting at the sewing machine. She came over to look at what I was making. “Pamela, you’re going to save some man a lot of money one day.” she admired. Her words echoed in my mind as I sewed clothes for my three daughters, and as I made various items for gift shops. That one sentence gave me confidence in my sewing, a skill I was able to use professionally.
Aunt Wanda is the youngest of the sisters. A career woman, she had a lot of wisdom to impart to my young, impressionable mind. I look more like her than any of my other aunts. She calls us twins. I have many memories with my Aunt Wanda, but one that really stuck was when my husband was in Vietnam. I was only 19 years old at the time. All my friends were still dating; going out on the weekends. I was lonely. I had moved back home with my parents while my husband was gone to war. One night, they invited Aunt Wanda to spend the night. She loved being at our house as much as we enjoyed having her. She slept with me that night. We talked and laughed into the night. She told me that she felt sorry for me, because I was so young ,and I was going through missing my husband. (We had our first anniversary while he was away.) The tears started to flow from my eyes. She was a strong comfort for me that night, and I’ve never told her that.
Why am I telling you all of this? It’s because they were mentors to me. It’s because they believed in me, enabling me to believe in myself. It’s because we should be aware of the kind of impact we are having on the lives of those around us.
Are we creating memories, or are we simply existing? Is our impact positive or negative? What will be remembered about us, after we are gone?
From my aunts I learned that:
1. Extended family is an important part of that village that raises us.
2. Encouraging words give hope.
3. If you don’t want to laugh, don’t hang around with the Haggard sisters.